Save your Marriage By Creating Intimacy

Intimacy help
All marriages go through times when it seems that the rough waters are more frequent than the smooth ones. It is during the rough waters that people often think divorce is the only solution.

If this isn’t what you want then I offer hope for you. First, you have to believe wholeheartedly that you can save your marriage. If you don’t have this firm belief then there is little you can do to save it.

Often the missing ingredient for a marriage in trouble is the lack of intimacy. To have a happy marriage a couple must have a level of intimacy that goes beyond the physical to totally embrace the emotional. In thinking about intimacy at the level that embraces the emotional side ask yourself these questions:
Am I open and transparent with my spouse?
Do I share and include my emotions and emotional needs with my spouse? Or, do I keep these to myself?

Do I encourage my spouse to share emotions and emotional needs? Or, do I prefer not to be involved with my spouse in that way. If this is the case, you may be reluctant to let your spouse express emotions because you aren’t always able to “fix” whatever the concern is. Don’t beat up on yourself at this point.
If you want to save your marriage and lack of intimacy is contributing to the problems there are some things you can do that will help you be successful.

1-Be sure that you make every attempt to share everything with your spouse. I know that spouses often try to protect each other from problems and worries. This often leads to more worry on the spouse’s part because they wonder what is going on. Too often when people are worried and preoccupied with a situation they keep it from the spouse and try to deal with it on their own. This is a big mistake because it excludes your spouse when you should be including them.

Spouses can very easily detect when something is wrong and if they are not told what is going on they quickly begin trying to figure out what it is. Often, the conclusion reached is the wrong one. You know it’s often easy to add two and two and come up with five. A lot of hurt can be avoided and a lot of intimacy developed by being open and transparent.

2-in this day and age when everyone has a turkey platter full of responsibilities it is imperative to make time for your spouse. Not spending enough time with your spouse is almost a guaranteed way to send a marriage into trouble. Focusing all your time on children and careers will pay off with a dead marriage.

If you want to save your marriage, be very proactive about making time for your spouse. Surprise your spouse by planning an impromptu lunch followed by an afternoon spent together. Changing your schedule to spend time with your spouse will help them realize you do value them and you will begin to see an improvement in your marriage.
Creating this new level of intimacy in your marriage may not be easy for you and your spouse in the beginning. But if you want to save your marriage the effort you have to make will be well worth it. When this crisis is over, be sure that you never let the relationship deteriorate to a low point again. For more…