How To Deal With A Breakup – Break Up Pain

Dealing with break up
I wish I could tell you that the pain you are suffering due to a breakup is going to go away quickly. Our emotions don’t work that way. Often people who feel that they can get over the heartbreak caused by a break up in a short time realize many months later that the pain is still there. Any loss we experience brings with it some degree of pain and I think that of a broken love relationship is one of the worst.
You can survive the break up and you can help ease your pain. It is important that you look past the pain
You are probably experiencing many negative feelings at this time. Some of these may be:
Fear- you may simply be afraid of what the future holds for you. If you thought the one you just broke up with was your true soul mate you may fear that you will never meet another you will connect with as you did that person.

Loneliness-If you don’t have a network of family and friends you may feel very alone.
Hopeless- Dealing with the pain and misery of a break up may seem impossible; you may feel as if the future holds nothing for you.
There is no denying the fact that a relationship break causes a lot of pain and misery and I am in no way minimizing what you are going through. But the good news is that almost everyone goes through at least one break up and lives to tell about it.

One reason the pain from a break up is so excruciating is because you think you are the only one in this boat and you don’t want to be paddling along all on your own. It seems as if everywhere you are you are surrounded by people who are happy in intimate relationships. This may be, but you too can be in one of those relationships gain.

Dwelling on the painful break up from your ex will not help. You have probably relived the break up scene so many times that it seems to be all you can think of. You cannot get over the pain until you make the conscious decision to leave the break up in the past and move on. This is the only way you will ever find someone new and possibly the one who is better for you than you ever dreamed possible.
To start the healing process, reach out to other people and focus on the good parts of your life.
If you don’t have friends you can call on at this time, then start going places where you can meet people. I know of a guy who met what he thought was the love of his life when he first moved to a new town. He spent all his free time with her so when the break up came he had no one to turn to. He immediately started volunteering in a homeless shelter and found great friends among the other volunteers.

If you do have friends they have already realized that you are having a rough time and more than likely they are waiting for you to let them help you. Whatever you do, don’t blow them off or appear not to accept what they may tell you about their experiences in dealing with a break up. They are not trying to say that your pain is not real, they are trying to encourage you. Let them help you as you heal.
Break up pain is hard. There are ways to deal with the pain in healthy ways that will make you ready for a fresh relationship with the right person comes along. For more on How to survive a break up…