He Dumped Me How Can I Ever Survive

How to survive a break up
You have been dumped and life may seem to have come to a complete standstill. You are going through the motions of living, but you possibly feel as though you won’t ever be fully alive again. In fact you may be thinking, “He dumped me, how will I ever survive.”

Now I know you are hurting and that reading this article will not take all of the hurt away, but I hope it will help you to realize that although you have broken up with someone you love, you are not a broken person.

Two fears, I will never recover from the pain and no one will ever love me again, are usually present when one is in the position of “he dumped me.”
I have a thought that I hope will be encouraging to you: the fear is real and the pain is real. But this reality is in your head, not the real world. Yes, one part of your life may be over, but your life is not over.

Your family and friends still care for you. You probably have more time to spend with them now. Often, when we are in a romantic relationship we lose touch with the other important people in our lives.
Sharing your loss with them may encourage them to share their breakup experiences with you. Most people can relate to what you’re saying when the words “he dumped me” are uttered. Well, if you’re talking with a man, he will automatically change the “he” to “she.” When others share their experiences, this is in no way meant to minimize what you are feeling.

Hearing other people’s experiences will hopefully help you to see that they survived being dumped and went on to live complete happy lives.
Not only will you have more time for those who care about you, you will have time to participate in activities your boyfriend may have had no interest in. You can make a difference not only in your life but in the life of someone who really needs a lift.

I know a young woman who felt that she wouldn’t survive being dumped by her boyfriend of six years. To fill some empty hours she started volunteering through the United Way chapter in her community. Did she still feel the pain? For a while, yes. Did she still have the fear that no one would ever love her again? For a while, yes. But her sense of worth was restored and the pain slowly ebbed away. She realized that she was a worthwhile person before she would be able to be in a healthy relationship again.

There are numerous activities you can get involved in. You just have to make the choice. You can choose anything from volunteering at a soup kitchen to pursuing an academic degree: the point is to get busy.
You are a person of worth and you do matter; you may have to prove this to yourself. Convincing yourself may be the hard part.

You will find someone and begin dating again. Your soul mate is out there. To paraphrase the old saying- you may have to kiss a lot of guys before Mister Right comes along, he will come. It is very possible that your ex did you a big favor when he dumped you; now you have the opportunity to find the one who is just right for you.

Being dumped is never pain free. But start trying to change the “he dumped me how will I ever survive” to “he dumped me and not only will I survive, I will thrive!” For more on Getting over being dumped…