How To Survive A Break-Up– Follow this Example

Getting Over Being Dumped
Susan was in a relationship with Bill for over a year. To say that she thought the sun rose and set on him would not be an exaggeration. She thought everything was good in the relationship so when he told her he wanted to see other people she felt as if her world has caved in. Susan had no idea how she would survive a break up with Bill.

Susan tried various tactics to get him back. These included writing him love letters, phoning him several times a day and sending numerous texts. Everything she did just seemed to be driving him further away rather than bringing him back.

In a few weeks Susan accepted that it was really over. She had things around her house that reminded her of Bill and she knew that some if her things were at his house so she suggested they meet and have an exchange of property.

When they met, Susan wanted to return the necklace he gave her for her birthday but he wanted her to keep it as a reminder of him. Actually, remembering him was much too painful for Susan so she put the necklace in a box where she wouldn’t see it all the time. Later she could decide what to do with it.

Susan then told Bill that she didn’t want any contact or communication with him for a month. She told him she thought that would help them move on with their lives. Actually, it was a defense mechanism Susan was using to survive the break up.

Bill protested and said that he wanted them to remain friends if not significant others. But Susan stood her ground and insisted that this time would allow them time to transition into their new status as friends better. Reluctantly Bill agreed with her so during that month they had no contact with each other.

Susan reconnected with her girlfriends whom she had seen only occasionally during her time with Bill. She was ready for some quality time with them so she organized “Girls’ Nights Out” and other events.

She also joined a health club and took an art class that she had wanted to take for a long time. There things were very helpful for her in surviving a break up. In these activities she added new friends to he old friends to spend time with.

One night when she was out with friends she met Fred. They flirted for most of the evening then he asked for her phone number. Susan wasn’t sure she was ready for a new relationship but she went on a date with him anyway. She was glad to be seen as desirable by someone and realized that dating again was one way of surviving a breakup. For more…